Are you the eldest, middle or youngest child?
Your birth order in your family likely had a big impact on your personality and success in life. This “birth order” theory was first proposed by Alfred Adler in the twentieth century. Since then other scientists have agreed and expanded on this theory.
Whenever I write about a family (like The Shannon Sisters), I like to take this theory into account as I develop my characters. But it’s also fun to see how well the theory applies to the people you know, and even your own family.
The eldest of the Shannon sister, Maureen (book 3, A Hometown Proposal) has many of these typical first born traits and as a first born child myself, I have to claim ownership of these traits as well (especially I am conscientious, cautious and I hate to admit it, controlling):
(They also say that in addition to generally having higher IQ tests and more education, eldest children also tend to earn more than their siblings. This is true for The Shannon Sisters, but not necessarily in my own family situation.)
Middle children generally have to compete more for their parent’s attention and as a result they generally are:
- Somewhat rebellious (in order to gain attention)
- Sociable with lots of friends who are very important to them
The middle child of my Shannon Sisters trilogy (Kelly, A Convenient Christmas Proposal) definitely has the first (rebellious) and last (peacemaker) of these traits. Which brings us to the last category, the youngest child (Cathleen, A Cowboy’s Proposal). These children don’t typically get a lot of demands from their parents which tends to make them more:
Coming from a family of five, I definitely see this theory playing out with my own brothers and sisters (though, as the eldest I’m kind of annoyed I didn’t get to be the highest earner. I will not relinquish my inherent claim to highest IQ however without evidence to the contrary).
Now as my daughter starts a family of her own I’m going to enjoy watching her children develop their personalities and I’m sure, despite all her efforts to treat them the same, they will naturally be impacted by their birth order.
Do you see yourself and your siblings fitting into this theory of birth order? For a chance to win an autographed paperback copy of books 1 and 2 of the Shannon Sisters Trilogy please tell me whether you are an oldest, middle or younger child and which of the associated traits you think fits you best.
USA Today Bestselling author C. J. Carmichael has written over 45 novels in her favorite genres of romance and mystery. She has been nominated twice for the Romance Writers of America RITA Award, as well as RT Bookclub’s Career Achievement in Romantic Suspense award, and the Bookseller’s Best honor.
She gave up the thrills of income tax forms and double entry book-keeping in 1998 when she sold her first book to Harlequin Superromance. Since then she has published over 35 novels with Harlequin and is currently working on a series of western romances with Tule Publishing. In addition C. J. Carmichael has published several cozy mystery series as an Indie author.
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I am the eldest child and totally claim the highest IQ! lol.
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I am oldest and most of the traits fit me…
I am a middle child. I was definitely rebellious when I was younger (maybe because I sought attention). But I was very introverted and still am. I try to be a peacemaker, but I usually don’t have the patience if something takes too long. I don’t know if this has to do with birth order, but I have a hard time trusting people.
I’m the eldest and have most of the traits listed.
I am the youngest child.
I am the youngest child and I definitely love fun, but am very introverted and a peacemaker. don’t think I’m complicated and I am certainly not manipulative and I don’t like attention (introverted, remember?)
I’m the eldest and the meanest so my siblings say, I can’t imagine why
i am a youngest child. 6th out of 7 in birth order. youngest of 5 girls. i guess a few traits would fit. (more middle child traits though.)
I am an only child. I think that was a big reason I grew up reading books as they were my comfort.
I’m the oldest. lol
Not sure my brothers totally fit the mold of the other two.
I’m the second oldest of six, but there are seven years between the oldest and myself, and six years to the next youngest. I share many traits of the oldest and middle children. First and foremost, I’m dependable and the peacemaker.